Weddings are the best celebrations ever!
It was a busy one.
Friday – we had supper with friends, (two sisters) Shireen & Anthea in Benoni.
Saturday – WAS MY BIRTHDAY!!! I am yet to get excited about my birthday, there was just so much happening I decided not to have a party. Rather I chose to attend a traditional African wedding in Soweto. It was so refreshing and lively as only the Sowetans can do! I love the spirit of Ubuntu at gatherings like these. It is so tangible.
“Ubuntu is a concept in the Bantu Language.
It is about the essence of Humanness.
Simply put: ‘people are people through other people’
I am human because I belong. This concept acknowledges both the rights and the responsibilities of each citizen in promoting individual and societal wellbeing.”
The event was at Hope’s mother home. They closed off the street and the guests walked down a red carpet. Thanks for making us part of your special day Tebogo and Hope! We hope to join you for your white wedding in February in Cape Town! I couldn’t catch a photo of the bride and groom as my camera died on me! Sorry! Read more on African weddings & traditions here.
Saturday evening – Went to another birthday celebration of a dear friend Samantha. This party was also a combined farewell to friends of theirs.
Sunday – After a blessed time at church we attended a birthday party of 5-year old Roxy Botha. Thanks Mel and Reggie for making us part of your day! We love meeting new people and we made some great friends at the party at Delta Park .
That was my busy weekend. I definitely feel a year older after that! I made a new friend at church, Melonie. She jokingly asked me about the amount of weddings I have attended so far. Maybe I should change my blog topic to that of weddings…what do you think?
I have been rambling about weddings and more weddings for weeks now. I promised to write about an inexpensive idea I had for one of my 3 weddings. This one was for my sister, Ame’s wedding. We needed budget centrepieces.
She wanted a very relaxed day with no frills and bells. However we still wanted it to look classy. I got this idea from the internet for inexpensive flower arrangements.
This was the beautiful venue in the Winelands:
Now I was so rushed that I forgot to take pics of the process…apologies. But it is really simple and easy. You need the following:
– 1 empty glass jar
– White paper bag
– 1 x Gerbera flower (in the colour of your choice)
– Greenery (plant lovers please help me! I cannot remember the name!)
– Ribbon in the colour of your choice
– 1 thin plastic bag (to prevent the paper bag from getting wet)
Half fill the glass jar with water. Put the glass jar in the plastic bag and then in the paper bag. Arrange the greenery & the flower in the centre. Tie the ribbon around in a loose manner to finish off your very inexpensive but classy arrangement!
I together with my Aunt Estelle, also made the hand bouquets. Very simple and striking….and I think you will agree that my sister looked beautiful!
That was a snippet of Ame’s inspirational and prompt wedding. The two of us organised the whole wedding in about 12 days! Oh I forgot to mention the cost of the Gerbera table arrangement. It came down to about R 15,oo per unit. We had 9 tables so in total we spent less than R150,00! Great for cost saving and great on the eye!
It has been two weeks of chaos and wedding bliss. This past weekend I attended 3 weddings in a row!
Friday, 28 October – My younger sister, Ame got married.
Saturday, 29 October – This one is a bit complicated…wait for it. Ashley’s cousin Yvette got married to his (Ashley’s) best friend, Edwellan.
Sunday, 30 October – One of my dearest friends, Carmen, got married to Raymond.
All I can say is WOW! All of them were special in their own distinctive way. Each couple added their own unique flair to their special day.
I was privileged to be my sister’s Wedding Planner. I also assisted Carmen with hers with decor ideas. That has kept me running around but I enjoyed every moment of it! I will post some of the ideas we implemented in the weeks to come.
I wish each couple health and happiness. They are all very special to me, and I thank you for making me feel special by allowing me to share it with you! Love you guys!!!
PS: Ame and Carms…I know you are still on Honeymoon but I am still recovering!
That might be one of the most nerve-racking moments in your life. The Preacher finally pronounces you husband and wife. Now while you know your new wife’s lips from end to end, suddenly the pressure is on. After all, your Mom & Dad are watching, the Pastor and all your friends. Usually you kiss in private and now you have to stick your tongue in her mouth and woo her as you supposedly share your first kiss. It is quite a show to behold!
So this is another wedding post because I just love weddings…especially coloured weddings! I attended one this weekend. It was great. Many congratulations on your special day, Randall & Lydia! We had so much fun! We wish you loads of happy years together!
I hate differentiating between the races, but there is just something special about coloured weddings. As usual you meet up with people you haven’t seen in some time. It feels like a reunion and everybody is happy and expectant…looking forward to a “lekker” reception and a free meal!
Usually the Master of Ceremonies is a funny guy. He could be a friend or family member. He’ll crack up everyone with advice and jokes about marriage. He might be daring and might even dish out the dirt on either one of you too! So be prepared!
One thing is for sure, there is always a joker around. He stirs up the crowd and gets everyone laughing. He might also get on some people’s nerves. Then there is always a girl (or a few) that likes drawing attention. She will be wearing a daring outfit and all the men will be checking her out. Also, be warned! There is always an Aunty trying to “take” something home. If you’re not careful, she’ll take home the vase you hired or even a glass. She will definitely use a serviette and pack some food in her bag for the kids at home!
When the DJ opens with the first song everyone will be rushing to the floor. Hopefully he plays some classics that get the crowd going. Classics include a track from the Jimmy Hendricks band, definitely a Grease song and Brenda Fassie’s “Weekend Special”. You can bet yourself that there will be a middle-aged guy, who will pull out some dance moves that we haven’t seen ever. It is evident that he might suffer from a mid-life crisis. He will be trying to dance with that girl with the short dress and she will happily oblige!
Aaaah…you gotta love weddings. It did however get me thinking about the general etiquette that goes along with the order of a wedding.
1. Firstly let’s talk about dress code: Depending on what the bride and groom indicated the wedding invitation, it is usually a formal affair. Ladies can wear smart cocktail dresses and gents usually a jacket and smart pants. However ladies, please do not wear a white dress or a veil! Try not to steal the show as it is the Bride’s day.
The Mother of the Bride usually has first option for choosing the style and colour of her outfit after the Bridal party has chosen theirs.
2. Seating at the ceremony: The bride’s family sits on the left side of the aisle while the groom’s family sits on the right. The mothers always have the best seats…usually in the front row with the fathers beside them. The Bridal party joins them in the front row.
Here are a few general tips:
That was a mouthful. A wedding is also the joining of two very different families. Keep in mind that each of you grew up with different traditions so learn to accommodate each other. Above all…enjoy the day, a wedding is a celebration!
PS: Apologies for skipping a post yesterday. I had endless problems connecting to the Internet.